Post title from “Workhorse” by All Them Witches
I find myself writing less lately. I want to write every day or nearly every day but I find I just don’t have the time or energy. It feels like I’m constantly behind in my day-to-day duties so I can’t justify taking an hour or so to write a blog post about nothing. The semester is coming to an end though, so my school work has calmed down a bit, which has given me some breathing room in my free time. I’ve also been trying really hard to be more productive in small ways, which has helped boost my mood and lessened my stress a little.
The time I had off this past week did not go as planned. I was so excited to see my sister and her children, especially because this was going to be the only birthday party we did for my son, and at the last minute we were not able to go. Earlier in the week my mom had watched our son and she had pink eye. And on Friday, the day before the party, my son woke up from his nap with a swollen eye and some discharge. We had to assume it was pink eye since he’d been around my mom. But we immediately got him to urgent care and on antibiotics. But that wasn’t good enough for my sister (really her husband) and they said they didn’t want us to come over (they were spending the night at our parents’ house which is why we couldn’t do something separate from them).
I was super angry about it and cried most of Friday night about it. I honestly still think it was unnecessary. My sister (who is a teacher) said at her school, kids are required to be on antibiotics for 24 hours before they can come back to school. By the time of the party, my son would’ve been on antibiotics for 12 hours and he wasn’t showing symptoms, so they way I see it, we were prevented from going to our son’s own party by a matter of 12 hours. We got him on antibiotics so quickly after he started showing symptoms that I don’t think he was ever contagious (if it was pink eye at all, which we also can’t be sure of since he has allergies as well).
I don’t want to sound callous. I understand their reasoning. They have 3 kids and if 1 kid got pink eye they would probably all get it. My sister’s husband works from home while caring for the kids so he would’ve had to deal with it the most and he was the one most opposed to us coming. But it’s just hard for me. I’ve had pink eye before and to me it is not a big deal. Yes it sucks because your eye swells up and is itchy, but then you take eye drops for 5 days and it goes away. It’s more of a nuisance in my opinion than a “sickness”.
It worked out okay. We took our son to the zoo instead and did a make-up party with my parents after they left. I just hate it because I want our son to have a chance to interact with his cousins as well as just children in general. And my son is likely the only child I will ever have; he’s only turning 2 once and yes, he won’t remember it, but I will, and this year his birthday sucked. I was working Night Shift on his actual birthday so my husband took him out to celebrate by himself. We were going to have a party for him with our friends but the only weekend I had free coincided with a huge tourist event in our town, meaning all of the locals would be gone, and then he didn’t even get to have his joint birthday party with his cousins. (Oh, and while we were at the zoo, I found out my credit card number had been stolen—it seriously feels like we can’t win sometimes.)
It makes me sad. He’s only 2 and I feel like I’ve missed out so much on his life because of my stupid job. He’s gone this weekend visiting his grandparents in the next state over so I won’t see him at all for 3 full days due to my work schedule. Next weekend my husbands dad is taking him to visit his great granddad who was diagnosed with cancer and may die soon.
Yes, that’s another thing that happened within the last week. My husband paternal granddad was diagnosed with cancer in his lymph nodes that has spread to his kidneys and pancreas if I remember we correctly. Sure a miracle could happen, but realistically he’s probably not going to live very long.
Because of the timing of that, my husband had to cancel a shift he picked up with his second job. He works as needed but they’ve been threatening to fire him because he works too few shifts, but he literally is never available because of my work schedule. Now I don’t know what’s going to happen with that, but he’s trying to decide if he should go with his dad to visit this dying grandpa or stay home with me since I’m off. He’s not particularly close to that grandpa. He feels it’s the “right thing to do” to go visit this grandpa, but he doesn’t want to because he knows it would mean caring for our son by himself (this is the same side of the family I’ve complained about before, who never help him with anything when he comes to visit). I asked him, if he didn’t go, and this grandpa died before he could see him again, would he regret it? And he said no. But even with that in mind he still hasn’t decided what to do.
Moving on from the bad things, the one good thing that has happened is that I got asked to come in for the second round interview with that state job I’m very interested in. I’m excited but terrified because I have no idea what to expect. I’ve never had to do multiple rounds of interviews before and I can’t find any concrete answers about what will be discussed in the interview. Will it be more situational questions or more getting to know you questions? I have no idea how to prepare and I really want this job!
I still struggle with guilt over leaving my current job. But tonight I came into work and everyone was complaining about how bad this job is, and I realized I am making the right choice. Change is really scary and it’s hard to give up such a secure job, even if it is awful in many other ways. I’m especially nervous because this job with the state, if I get it, would be really be out of my wheelhouse. I would be driving all over the state visiting different sites, and I never imagined myself having a job where driving is such a big part of it. I still have to get through the interview though so we’ll see.
I’m also nervous about the interview because my only interview outfit is very formal (think lawyers office vs blue collar job). I went shopping for clothes and could not find anything that fit and was affordable other than this very formal looking pencil skirt. I know it’s better to be over-dressed versus under-dressed but I feel so uncomfortable in formal clothes; I feel like it will just make my nerves even worse. Oh yeah, and how can I forget that I have to go to this interview after getting off work at 7 am? Originally they wanted to schedule it for 1 pm, and I managed to get it pushed back to 3:30 pm, so I will be able to sleep a little, but I’m still going to be very tired. I hope I can still do my best.
In light of my credit card being stolen, I’ve been going through all my accounts and changing passwords to make them way stronger. I used WordPress heavily throughout high school and college and I logged into my old account and found a blog just like this one from my freshman-sophomore year of college! I’ve been too afraid to read it, but when I finally get the courage I’m really curious what it will say, and what memories it will bring back (there’s like almost 100 entries I think). I also found a lot of empty blogs—ones I created but then never used—that I’m thinking of using again because some of them were cool concepts. I found one that seemed like it would’ve been about positive affirmations, but then I never wrote anything, and I think it would be cool to write about that since I’m using positive affirmations again. There was one about my attempt at minimalism, one about houseplants, my old yoga blog from when I was a yoga teacher, my ballet blog from when I danced in high school, one about vegan food, even one showing off entertaining spam emails I got at work.
I just love blogging haha.